There are only four types of people in the world we live in no more and no less.
These people help to inspire or dampen our spirit. They help to establish our pace! One or more of these ‘types’ may have a tremendous influence on your life right now!
The four types of people are:
- The Adder– we really enjoy these people, they tend to add some value and support. They make the lives of others pleasanter and more enjoyable. They are nourishers!
- The Subtractor– we tolerate these people, they do not bear our burdens, and they make heavier the ones we already have. If you have a problem, they have a worse problem. The sad thing about subtractors is what they do is usually unintentional. If it is raining, they will undoubtedly not have an umbrella and if so the umbrella would have gaping holes in it.
- The Multiplier- we really value these people, they go the extra mile to uplift and inspire people around them. They operate with intention, strategy, and skill using their talent and resources to help. They’re always generating great ideas, solutions to problems, and kind words. They are passionate about making a difference and value partnerships.
- The Dividers– we avoid these people like the plague! These people move dirt and crap fast. Anything negative or divisive they are the ones moving it about. Dividers are people who will take you to the basement, meaning they’ll take you down as low as they can, as often as they can. These people are bad news losers. They are so damaging because, unlike subtractors, their actions are usually intentional.
They are hurtful people who make themselves look or feel better by trying to make someone else do worse than they do. They create havoc in people’s lives. They are toxic!
Whose pace have you adjusted to? Which type of people surrounds you?
Les Brown said, “
Most people never achieve their true goals in life because they’re surrounded with too many toxic, negative energy draining people.
You have to look at the people in your life and ask yourself this question, “what is this relationship doing for me?”, “Is this relationship helpful to me?”, “How is it impacting my life?” and “Am I a better person?” After you assess you must act to remove those unwanted elements from your life to achieve the goals of your life.
Joe Frazier says, “your network determines your net-worth”, the people you associate with will bring the most support toward achieving your goals in life. Think about some people you need to bring into your life. If you look at the 5-6 closest people to you, you can determine how far you will go toward fulfilling your goals.
Everyone has a team of supporters, so as you bring forth your team, make sure they’re smarter, more creative than you. They should be great in an area that distinguishes them from you and the rest of the team. You must be around people that are doing what you want to do!
By Jabari Akil, counsellor, educational consultant & leadership specialist.
Originally Published in Enjoy Magazine Accra.